Born @ 27 weeks
2lbs 7oz

Wednesday, January 28, 2015

And So It Began...

Four years ago today, I began a CaringBridge site at the suggestion of friends and nurses that were encouraging us to update others efficiently and honestly on the unstable life of our baby. 

I was 25 weeks pregnant, only in my second trimester and due in May.

Without a name, without a nursery, without a clue our lives would be forever changed. 

Nash was 14 months old. 

We had just returned from a vacation in Mexico. (I often wonder where we would be had this day happened one week earlier in Mexico). 

We had four months to go before Nash would be a brother. 

There were no signs.

I woke up in the middle of the night and for some reason turned on the light. 

It was 2am. I was in a poole of blood. Our bed was covered. 
I woke up Michael and he moved at a pace I have never seen. 

I called the doctor.

Michael called my Mom.
Then we called the ambulance. 

I remember staring at the ceiling going down the stairs of our home, then seeing the lights from the ambulance glowing off the house as the paramedics climbed in and closed the doors. 

Michael waited in the driveway for my Mom to arrive to stay with Nash.

I remember the most tender woman talking to me about her horse, as she began to administer meds in the back of the ambulance. The sirens blared and it seemed like a dream. 

I was so cold, my teeth were chattering. Was that shock or just January?

I listened to the paramedic's every word. For some reason the story of her horse was so hypnotizing and calming at the same time. 

Was there even a horse? It didn't matter, she had done this before. 

My husband beat the ambulance. We laugh about that now. I remember being wheeled to the Maternity floor and he was standing just beyond the handoff from the ambulance to the nurses that were notified I would be arriving. 

The pajamas my husband gave me for Christmas just one month ago, were cut off and discarded. Michael held my hand. 

The sight was gruesome.

There was no mention of our baby. 

Looking back, I think we were too paralyzed to ask.

The doctors and nurses furiously raced around us, preparing us for surgery. 

The rest is a blur.


They stopped our baby from coming that night and for a few other tumultuous days that followed. 

Below is an email to a handful of friends and family. It would also be the first of hundreds of entries to our caring bridge site, asking friends and family to pray for our unborn child. 

January 28th, 2011


I wanted to give you an update on our sweet baby and ask for your prayers.

We were admitted to the hospital last Monday (1/25) with extreme bleeding. After a trip in the ambulance and a lot of chaos and prayers, baby and I were stabilized and moved from the labor and delivery hall to a 'Special Care Maternity unit'. We have been monitored all week with hopes that the bleeding would subside. (Nash was even able to visit a few times - clearly the highlight).

We took a turn for the worse Saturday night. Without going into too much detail, they had us prepped us for delivery. They gave steroids to the baby to help the lungs develop and magnesium to reduce risks for cerebral palsy And help with contractions. The goal is to get me through 24 more hours (which we made tonight!) so the baby can have the second shot of steroids - and any day after.

They've moved us over to more critical room again - no getting out of bed, no visitors, etc. Drs say baby looks good And is strong. i'm just losing blood, which they hope will stop. 

Drs say I'm not leaving without a baby - we just pray every day that we make It just one more day. Today, we are 26 weeks. I am not due until May. The dr guesses sweet baby richter is around 2lbs. He/she no doubt is a fighter.

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers as we wait to meet our new little one.


This year, I am going back through these old posts for the first time. This is not an attempt to live in the past, but rather an attempt to let go. My hope is to move farther from the birth of our preemie to helping others that are where we were four years ago today. It is quite a journey, one I am willing to 'relive' then let go. 

This is just another step in the process.

1 comment:

Katherine said...

Love you and love that you are re reading this as a part of letting go of such a difficult experience. Yet one with sooooooo many blessings. I think you are smart This is a great way to re eber the blessing but forget the burden on your hearts. It's PTSD for sure. I can only imagine the struggles of thirst last 4 years but wow the amazing gifts you've provided for so many families.

I love you guys! Happy 4th year birthday Mighty, Mighty, Mighty, Mighty Shaw (and Nash too)!